Insights for Parenting and Personal Growth
Discover expert tips and strategies to support your parenting journey and personal development. Find practical advice to help you create a happier, healthier family life.
Peacefully Parenting in Unpredictable Times
Our peace doesn’t come from knowing the future but from staying present and acknowledging our feelings without letting them control us. By accepting that we have the tools to face any challenge, we can remain calm and supportive for our children.
How to Help a Child Who Is in a Behavioral Rut
When a child struggles with negative behavior, parents should remember it doesn’t define them. The “Relationship Reset Strategy” involves a calm conversation to shift the parent’s thinking, acknowledging past mistakes and focusing on the child’s true nature. This helps the child see their potential for kindness and change.
Setting Boundaries
Children need boundaries to feel secure. Parents should set limits confidently and kindly, as this teaches respect and provides safety. An insecure “no” creates frustration, while a clear, assertive “no” reassures children and shows love.
Fair Does Not Mean the Same
When children say, “It’s not fair!” it often triggers guilt and doubt in parents. However, it’s important to teach children that fairness doesn’t mean everyone gets the same; it means everyone receives what they need. By modeling this concept in everyday moments, parents can show children that comparing oneself to others is unhelpful. Reinforcing that love is abundant and equal among siblings helps them feel secure and satisfied with their own unique needs and circumstances.
How to Connect With Our Children When They Have Made Poor Choices
The teshuva process teaches us how to view mistakes with compassion and growth, not judgment. When children make poor choices, avoid shaming them—it only creates separation and defensiveness. Instead, use the “New Fresh Moment Strategy”: treat each moment as an opportunity for a fresh start. This approach fosters accountability and connection, helping children become their best selves.
Nurturing a Feeling of Self-Worth
Help your child build healthy self-esteem by teaching them their worth isn’t tied to performance but rooted in their intrinsic value as human beings. Treat them with respect, support their struggles without judgment, and encourage them to use their unique gifts to positively impact others—small actions can help them see their significance in the world.
Why You Should NOT Be a Perfect Parent
Parenting doesn’t have to feel overwhelming. Dr. Yossi Shafer suggests a “do nothing” approach: focus less on constant strategies and more on providing a warm, stable environment with loving limits. By tuning into your child’s needs, managing your reactions, and letting natural consequences teach, you foster growth and connection without the stress of overanalyzing every moment.
What if Your Child Is Bullying Other Children?
Bullying stems from insecurity and the belief that proving one’s value requires diminishing others. Parents can help by affirming the child’s true, kind self and setting firm, supportive boundaries that hold them accountable for their actions while fostering growth.
There Are No “Shoulds” in Life
Pain Vs. Misery Strategies To Help Your Children Embrace Their Challenges The Healthy Approach To Challenges
